There's no such thing as a fresh start ๐ŸŒฑ (and that's okay) - April 2026 from B3


April 2026

Hi Reader,

April arrives with blossoms and a full calendar โ€” and I'm here for all of it.

This past Wednesday, I hosted a Passover seder for over 30 people. Joyous and a little chaotic, steeped in tradition and entirely full of human connection. My favorite moment: watching people notice how easy it was to meet someone new that night, how everyone felt like they'd been friends forever. Both new and familiar at once. I love that particular polarity.

This month I'm thinking about fresh starts โ€” and what it actually takes to create one when the circumstances haven't changed.


For Team Leaders

A fresh start doesn't require a clean slate.

Often, I hear teams in the middle of some tough stuff:

"We need a reset. But we aren't in control of what's on our plate."

Teams often can't shift the budget, or their management, or the roles they hold โ€” in other words, their circumstances. But that doesn't make them powerless to feel refreshed.

However, teams CAN shift their relationship to their circumstances โ€” their perspective.

Here are a few perspective shifts that I've seen have impact:

  • Stop pretending nothing has changed. Take a moment and acknowledge that the team may have been through major shifts and notice if team members have been trying to keep doing the same thing with noticing the impact.
  • Change how you communicate and manage. Your previous style of communication, processes, tools, etc. may not be the right stuff for right now. Take the time to consider that you need to adjust some of the "how" of getting things done.
  • Subtract a process. Sometimes we are doing work because we used to need it. Teams rarely let go of or "subtract" a process that no longer serves the team.
  • Bring in energy. Start your meetings with an intentional moment of connection. Even without getting super personal, you can bring some fresh air -- and fresh thinking -- by refreshing your meeting openers

Is your team carrying something that needs naming? I'd love to talk.


For Coaches

Do you think supervision feels like coaching?

Here's something I hear often from coaches in supervision: it feels a lot like coaching.

They arrive with a case. They want to work through it. They want to leave with something โ€” a reframe, a next step, an insight they can use. Goal-oriented. Agenda-forward.

Which makes sense. It's what we're trained to do.

But supervision isn't coaching. It lives in a different space โ€” slower, more emergent, less interested in resolution. Its job isn't to move you toward an answer. It's to help you sit with the question long enough that something true surfaces.

This is exactly why I've been so excited about what I am completing with Paul Sanbar: both LEGO Serious Play(tm) and Liminal Spaces coaching certification.

What I love about bringing LEGO into supervision is that the bricks do something the conversational format struggles to: they remove the agenda-seeking reflex. There's no right model to build. There's no correct answer hiding in the plastic. You're just making something with your hands โ€” and your hands know things your words haven't found yet.

The constructivist, emergent nature of the activity leans deeply into what supervision is actually meant to be: Reflective. Restorative. Spacious.

I watched this happen in my own training. The moment someone builds something and says "I don't know what this is yet" โ€” that's the supervision moment. That's the thing that was living below the case they brought.

I'm excited to bring this into my supervision work โ€” both individual and group. And yes, I can mail you a small kit so we can play together in a session.

Curious? Just reply to this email.


A great read

Inclusive Strategic Planning - Renee Rubin Ross

Renee Rubin Ross is a longtime colleague, and her self-published book Inclusive Strategic Planning is exactly what the sector needs right now.

What I love about it: she doesn't back off from the hard things. Not the time it takes to do this well. Not the real risk of building a plan that looks inclusive but isn't. And not this: "Visioning is hard โ€” not because people lack ideas, but because uncertainty and urgency shrink our sense of what is possible."

That line stopped me. It's true of every strategic planning process I've ever seen go sideways โ€” not because the team wasn't smart, but because the container was too small for real imagination.

Renee's book is a roadmap for keeping that container expansive while staying honest about the pressures that want to shrink it. If you're heading into a planning process โ€” or supporting one โ€” this belongs on your desk.


On a Personal Note

Emerging

I've been noticing something lately โ€” how my energy moves with the light. As the days get longer, something in me loosens. I feel it as emergence: not a plan, not a resolution, just a quiet sense of what wants to come forward.

The blossoms don't know yet if it will be a good year for apricots. Neither do I. But they showed up anyway.

What's emerging for you this spring?

โ€‹Let's do a coffee chat!โ€‹

P.S. I'm presenting on burnout at the Silicon Valley Council of Nonprofits Convergence on May 6 in San Jose. If you're attending or know someone who will be, send them the link!โ€‹

P.P.S. NLL members โ€” my two-session workshop on Navigating Burnout runs May 21 & 28. Register here!โ€‹

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I help small to mid-size nonprofit leadership teams navigate strategic changes intentionally, effectively, and confidently through coaching engagements. My mission is to weave together the fabric of people for a stronger community.

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